I have a problem with how sexy Indian women are and how sexy they actually can be. It’s mostly a matter of potential and I think the potential is under utilised. Now please don’t rush to any conclusions here, I’m not suggesting that our women show more skin or act less modest. Bear with me here, for a moment.
Take for instance Brazil. Here’s a country that sits at the other end of the sexy continuum. If their national sexy index was 10 ours would be 0. We invented the cipher, so it’s only fitting. But I digress. Physically Indian women have every quality available to women all over the world to be perceived as sexy. However, the best we ever get is ‘beautiful’, ‘hot’, or ‘exotic’. But very rarely do we ever get ‘sexy’. The sari, yes that’s sexy, but not in the way the average woman wears it or walks in it. The sari, and this is a commonly understood fact, is meant to accentuate the sexuality of a woman. But where is it? It’s nowhere to be seen. How many women actually walk that walk of a confident sexy woman? A handful, and they are usually from the upper reaches of protected society.
So the point we arrive at is, the walk has a lot to do with sexiness. Look around you, Indian women just don’t walk sexy. The women who wear jeans and trousers are the worst affected. They either walk like boys or figure some in-between way to suppress the natural sway of the hip that belongs to the woman. It’s her feminine prerogative that she denies herself.
But it’s not she who denies herself. It’s society. From the time a girl turns 10 she gets told to not walk in a way that attracts unwanted male attention, and the scorn of the female set. And there lies the root to this problem. A mature, progressive, healthy society allows its little girls to blossom into women. It doesn’t tell them to tone down the sex so the grown ups - the neighbours, the watchman, the grocer and the teachers don’t feel inadvertently attracted. In a civil society women are allowed this freedom so they can explore their sexuality to its fullest.
Even Arab women, covered from head to toe have a way about them that is sexy. Arab culture even has a way to describe a young woman’s gait, they compare it to the strut of a gazelle.
It is proven researched* fact, that a woman would swing her hips a little less if there was fear of sexual assault. But if this fear beats the sexuality out of an entire population then there’s something terribly wrong there. For a society to be sexually healthy, the female puts out the signals and the male wins her affection in an socially approved manner.
So that’s my complaint.
And here’s my solution. About time, we let our little girls be themselves and provide for them a safe, healthy society that allows them to grow up into confident, young women who are comfortable and in-control of their sexuality.
And if we can’t do it we might as well dress them all up in Burquas.
*How hips sway in the mating game - Times Online
Take for instance Brazil. Here’s a country that sits at the other end of the sexy continuum. If their national sexy index was 10 ours would be 0. We invented the cipher, so it’s only fitting. But I digress. Physically Indian women have every quality available to women all over the world to be perceived as sexy. However, the best we ever get is ‘beautiful’, ‘hot’, or ‘exotic’. But very rarely do we ever get ‘sexy’. The sari, yes that’s sexy, but not in the way the average woman wears it or walks in it. The sari, and this is a commonly understood fact, is meant to accentuate the sexuality of a woman. But where is it? It’s nowhere to be seen. How many women actually walk that walk of a confident sexy woman? A handful, and they are usually from the upper reaches of protected society.
So the point we arrive at is, the walk has a lot to do with sexiness. Look around you, Indian women just don’t walk sexy. The women who wear jeans and trousers are the worst affected. They either walk like boys or figure some in-between way to suppress the natural sway of the hip that belongs to the woman. It’s her feminine prerogative that she denies herself.
But it’s not she who denies herself. It’s society. From the time a girl turns 10 she gets told to not walk in a way that attracts unwanted male attention, and the scorn of the female set. And there lies the root to this problem. A mature, progressive, healthy society allows its little girls to blossom into women. It doesn’t tell them to tone down the sex so the grown ups - the neighbours, the watchman, the grocer and the teachers don’t feel inadvertently attracted. In a civil society women are allowed this freedom so they can explore their sexuality to its fullest.
Even Arab women, covered from head to toe have a way about them that is sexy. Arab culture even has a way to describe a young woman’s gait, they compare it to the strut of a gazelle.
It is proven researched* fact, that a woman would swing her hips a little less if there was fear of sexual assault. But if this fear beats the sexuality out of an entire population then there’s something terribly wrong there. For a society to be sexually healthy, the female puts out the signals and the male wins her affection in an socially approved manner.
So that’s my complaint.
And here’s my solution. About time, we let our little girls be themselves and provide for them a safe, healthy society that allows them to grow up into confident, young women who are comfortable and in-control of their sexuality.
And if we can’t do it we might as well dress them all up in Burquas.
*How hips sway in the mating game - Times Online
